I wasn't so sure I wanted to hear a talk about pain. But nothing else in that time slot jumped out at me, and my friend Julie was going to Zarr's session, so I tagged along.
I'm so glad I did.
Zarr writes young adult novels, and she is interested in the transition from childhood to adulthood that adolescents are engaged in. She says (I'm paraphrasing from memory and certainly won't do her argument justice, so if it sounds dumb, blame me, because Zarr was amazingly articulate) that adolescents are wrestling with big truths about life: that some mistakes can't be undone; that people aren't always what you thought they were; that pain cannot be avoided, but is part of life. This wrestling is what she's interested in writing about, and she wants to write truthfully for young adults about how complicated and unresolved it can all be. She says, "If you get to the end of the book and she's got the car and the boy, and her skin has cleared up, you've entered the realm of fantasy, of wish-fulfillment. You've stopped respecting your readers and they will know it and they will stop respecting you."
It's a very interesting position for a Christian writer to take, but it makes her the kind of Christian I like, the kind that recognizes that faith doesn't remove the problems from your life, but gives you a framework for wrestling with them.
I read Story of a Girl while I was at the conference, and was very impressed with it. It's the story of a girl (is there any other way to start this sentence? I think not.) whose father catches her having sex with a 17-year-old boy when she is 13 years old. In the three years since, he has not really looked at her or talked to her. Meanwhile, the boy in question has told so many stories about her that her whole life is affected by people's perception that she is a particularly slutty slut.
That's a big problem to give a teenager, and when the book starts, Deanna Lambert has been carrying it for three years. Zarr is interested in how such a problem can be dealt with, but she doesn't offer any easy resolution. Nothing magical happens to lift Deanna out of the pain of her life. For instance, her older brother wants her to save the money she earns at a summer job to go to college, it's not at all clear that Deanna thinks such a thing is possible. She and the boy she had sex with three years earlier encounter each other unexpectedly, and they do manage to work some things out, but by the end of the book Deanna and her father have managed only one very tentative normal conversation.
Zarr said, "I like there to be some momentum," and there definitely is: that one tentative conversation between Deanna and her father is a big deal after three years of cold. But there's not the kind of "I've always loved you, Muffin," conversation that resolves so many parent-child misunderstandings in books. After listening to Zarr speak, when I read Story of a Girl I thought about how many YA books I read about working-class or poor kids with potential that had some kind of magical event solve their problems: a teacher, say, who takes a special interest and applies for a college scholarship for the kid without telling her, and she wins it!
Nobody's fixing things for Deanna. Her mother pretends everything is OK. Her boss at the pizza parlor is a confidante and helpful advisor, but he doesn't do more than offer a sympathetic ear and the occasional ride home. Deanna has a fantasy that she will move out of the house with her brother and his girlfriend when they have saved enough to get their own place. Her brother squashes that notion. He's not unsympathetic, but he says, "You have to find your own way out of here." That sentence could be the thesis of the book: it really is up to Deanna.
I could imagine some teens not wanting to read a book like this. There is something to be said for escaping into wish-fulfillment--when I was a kid, I loved books in which a child who had somehow ended up living with the wrong people, was discovered to actually belong elsewhere, where she was fully loved and valued. It's a very common trope in children's literature, so I was well-supplied with stories even in the days before Harry Potter got an Owl from Hogwarts and was rescued from his Muggle relations.
Some kids might prefer the story that ends with the car, the boy, the college scholarship, the clear skin, over a book that says, "Things do get better, but the change is often as much inside you as outside, and you have to work for it, and it may never be as good as you hope." And some parents might prefer books in which 13-year-olds never have sex and nobody swears. But Zarr's novel is full of compassion for her protagonist; she's neither a writer who avoids truthiness nor one who throws in sordid details for the heck of it. She likes protagonists who are in really tough situations, facing hard questions, and need to find their way out, and she likes to give them one or two hints and a nudge in the right direction. I liked her, and I liked her book.
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I enjoyed reading this entry, Su. I listened to Story of a Girl & it was read by Zarr. It was a really tough listen & I had to take breaks. It was in such stark contrast to the resolved endings I've usually encountered in YA books. Deanna wasn't likeable to me, but I was rooting for her. It wasn't until I finished listening that I really appreciated the realistic honesty of the book. I think it was so uncomfortable to read because it sent me back to my awkward & painful 16 year old self & reminded me how cruel we can be to each other. Being that age can feel like a prison sentence & Zarr did an amazing job of conveying the stuckness & claustrophobia Deanna felt.
Boy, I'm iffy on this one, because of the 13-year-old having sex part. I know it probably happens (hopefully not often, but I'm probably sticking my head in the sand on this) but that doesn't mean I want to read about it. There are so many big problems teens face that I think would be more universal, I guess. That said, it doesn't negate the story, the writing, or the message!
I do enjoy YA of many kids -- my kids pick them up and some I read and enjoy, and others I look at and fail to become engrossed. One I whipped through -- and is nothing like this, except it involves a teen with big problems -- was Her Mother's Diary by David Curry Kahn. In this, the teen heroine is on the run from drug lords responsible for killing her parents. (I know, not typical stuff either; 13-year-olds having sex happens more often...) She finds help with an old man, and reaches out to him and in so doing gains strength to help herself as well as others. But it's fun, fast-paced and it certainly inspires young people to believe in themselves, to persevere, to try to reach their goals. Like your book, a teen faces a tough situation and needs to find a way out.
You know, Liz, I didn't really get why she had sex with him, TBH. Probably it's a failure of mine; I know the book describes her as attracted to him, but mostly it seemed like she just sort of passively went along with this older boy who was a friend of her brother's. I can believe a girl would do that, but I didn't feel like I understood why _she_ was a girl who would do that.
I'm with Liz -- 13 year olds having sex? "La la la la! Fingers in my ears, I'm not listening!" (I'm kind of kidding, but not totally.)
I'm curious where the faith comes in with this book. I'm not questioning that it does, but your description didn't seem to touch on it. What could a teen who is not having deep personal troubles take from it, if anything?
BTW, I had to override our child-safety internet blocking program to read this post, lol! It got flagged as pornography, which really got my attention... ;o)
Stephanie
Stephanie, the religious element to the extent there is one is pretty muted. Deanna has a friend who attends church, and there's one section where she thinks about that, and how her friend is, and wonders about whether there's a connection there. Zarr's new novel, Once Was Lost, address questions of faith much more directly; it's about the daughter of a minister whose mom goes into rehab. I haven't read it yet, but one thing Zarr said in her talk is that she doesn't think there's any way she could have gotten it published as a first novel, that she needed the history of having two well-received novels first for her publisher to be willing to consider it.
The sex at 13 is the piece of the novel I struggle with most. Like I said in an earlier comment, I didn't feel like I really understood why Deanna did it. It was sort of a passive act on her part (though it happened a number of times over a period of months) and I didn't feel like I quite got what led her to be a girl who would just kind of go along with it like that. It almost felt like we're just supposed to accept that it happened, and the novel is much more interested in the aftermath (sort of like how you're not supposed to think too much about how the faster-than-light drive in a science fiction novel works). But I'd have been more satisfied if I felt like I better understood why Deanna ended up in that situation. (And I get what Selwa means about not liking Deanna but rooting for her--she continues to be kind of a passive person in a way that drove me pretty crazy through the middle part of the book. But I think that's part of what she had to get over.)
I was just thinking yesterday about whether I'd want my kids to read this book, and if so, when. Certainly when they were old enough to have already made some decisions about sex for themselves, I think, whatever that means. A 13-year-old might take it as a cautionary tale but I think it's really more appropriate for older teens who've already wrestled with questions about sex, reputation, and so on.
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