Possible, but not Easy

My new juggling balls arrived in the mail yesterday. I like them; they have a sueded finish and are very firm, and they're a good size for my hands. I am not very good at juggling, but Raider and I have recently moved the old juggling balls from our closet onto a shelf in the living room, and we have been practicing again. The kids are learning; The Lego Savant, who is almost 11, is working very hard on perfecting what we call the "one-ball jug," which is learning to reliably pass one ball from one hand to the other and back again, making a nice relaxed arc that crosses just in front of your eyes before it drops right into the waiting hand--it's less about catching than it is about aim, making tosses so accurate that your catching hand hardly needs to move and you don't have to think about it at all. When you can do this well with one ball, it's a surprisingly short step to doing it with three.

Raider can pick up the balls after months or years away and immediately start juggling, the balls going tock-tock-tock in a steady unbroken rhythm. Word Boy said the other day, "Daddy looks so relaxed when he's juggling," and it's true. The Lego Savant, watching me just now, said, "See, you make it look possible, but not easy. Dad makes it look easy." A very apt way to put it. [The Tiny Tornado said, "Mom, can I have some ice cream? Can I have some applesauce? With cinnamon on it? Can I get my own puppy? When I'm five? Can I have a skateboard? Can I take a bath? Can I help you cook dinner? Mom, these pants have a hole in them. You have to buy me some new pants. I want new shoes. I want flip-flops. Can we get some candy at the store?"]

Back when we had no kids, a lot more energy, and not one full-time job between us--and therefore all the time in the world to do anything we wanted--we juggled a lot. Raider taught me, and I got pretty good. Not as good as him. But good enough. We'd put on some music with a good beat and stand facing each other as we juggled in time to the beat. Michelle Shocked's old album Short Sharp Shocked has quite a few perfect juggling songs, and we often used that. Of course, it wasn't her "old" album back then.

Now, when you get into the groove with your juggling, it's like you slip into an alternate, slower timestream. Instead of scrambling to pluck each ball out of the air before it falls, your hand has to wait for it to fall effortlessly into your palm. You can feel the rhythm of it in your whole body. Your eyes focus somewhere in the distance; you're not looking at the balls, just seeing them as blurs in your near vision while you take in the view out the window. You start to have time to fill. You can walk; you can talk; you can toss one ball up as high as you can; you can start making smaller, lower arcs so the balls pass faster and faster, and then you can slow it back down again; you can start throwing the balls so they go outside each other's paths instead of inside them.

Raider and I used to focus on each other's eyes while we juggled. We still would, except that right now I can't keep the balls going long enough. He stands there, juggling steadily, while I juggle a little, drop a little, chase my balls around. Part of why we're practicing is because I'd like to do this again. It's surprisingly intense juggling in time while looking into someone's eyes. Many years ago, our friend Adrianne was watching us. "Jeez, you guys," she said after a couple of minutes. "Get a room!

We used to be able to do tricks together, stealing balls from each other or passing them back and forth. Sometimes you can throw a fourth ball to Raider and he will just grab it out of the air and boom! He's juggling four.

Juggling is a good thing to learn if you need to practice making mistakes. Because everyone drops balls. Even Raider, though not very often. When I was learning, sometimes I'd drop a ball and that was OK. Sometimes I would drop two, and Raider would say, "Double drop! Impressive." Sometimes I would drop all three, and he'd throw his hands in the air in mock triumph: "It's a triple drop! Yay, Su!" Now we cheer for the children. They don't find it quite as funny as I did.

Just now I was juggling--making it look possible, as the Lego Savant says, which is actually an improvement from just a few days ago when the sound of my balls hitting the hardwood floor was like a steady artillery bombardment. For a minute or two, I crossed into that other time stream. For about fifteen minutes, I juggled, passing in and out of it, clumsy to graceful and back again, with the Tiny Tornado's endless string of chatter fading into a steady buzz in the back of my mind. "Mom, do monkeys have bones? When I'm five, will my teeth start falling out? Is there much blood when your tooth falls out? How old do I have to be to drive a car? Is driving a car fun? Will you make my dog an eye patch? Aargh, matey! I think my fever's coming back. I'll get the thermometer. Can we have dutch baby for dinner? Do you have enough dollars for me to get a skateboard?"

I had forgotten that the peaceful rhythm of juggling is also a meditative path to serenity. I shall have to try not to forget again.